It is a process where we need to work in harmony with the Holy Spirit ( Gal 5:16-17,25)
The change is not outward. It is inward. Jesus said: “Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks ( Matt 12:34-35).
What we believe and what we think and what we set our hearts on has a profound effect on our actions and attitudes and conversations.
The Bible tells us to “be transformed by the renewing of our minds” ( Rom 12:2).
This is an instruction to do something – to not be passive, but to take charge of our minds so that our thoughts will start to conform to God’s way of thinking and not the old patterns that have been influenced by secular education, the media and entertainment industries, marketers and advertisers, political agendas and the general selfishness of our fallen natures.
The Bible tells us to think about what is noble, pure and right ( Phil 4:8).
This is a choice. We choose to think about these things, rather than the titillation that bombards our senses in everyday life. There is hardly a greater spiritual battle than this.
The Bible tells us to set our hearts on things above ( Col 3:1-2).
This is a choice to desire greater communion with Jesus, rather than to seek the satisfactions that appeal to our fallen nature. Recognizing what appeals to soul rather than spirit is the first step in this journey.
For those not under the Law – and you aren’t – everything is permitted, but not everything is helpful ( 1 Cor 10:23).
Best to listen carefully to the Holy Spirit.